Sensibilities

An attempt to make sense of things in a random universe, one Friday at a time.

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03 January 2014

For ghosts

For ghosts and the departed, both living and dead; for hauntings and unanswered questions and thoughts that trail off to the realm of darkness; for realities that beg the question; for wishes and dreams left suspended in some magical space and time, never to be realized; for love and memories and regrets; for that which is lost; for that which is not meant to be found.

Three days ago I left behind a previous life, and begin a new one. I was on the edge of the precipice then. Now the winds of love have propelled me to take flight.

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27 December 2013

Doors

I don't normally wait for the year to end before taking stock of my life. The OCD in me requires me to do this every week during the weekly review of my custom-designed planner. But the OCD in me also requires that I do something conclusive towards the end of every year, just to give finality to the year that is ending.

However, this year I will not do the requisite New Year's resolution, which always drove me crazy towards the end of January -- because apparently, having OCD is not an assurance that one will actually get things done as scheduled, and at the same time having OCD is an assurance that one will have frazzled nerves over things committed to and not done. Instead, I have decided just to close one door and open a new one.

Here are few things I have closed the door to as I leave 2013 behind: Overeating, overspending, psychiatric medication, negative thoughts, psychic vampires, high-maintenance relationships, direction-less relationships, direction-less people, hustlers and liars, credit cards, succumbing to depression, interest rates, painful shoes, cellulite, superficial gatherings, lousy music, bad lighting, bad lipstick, bad typography, bad adaptations, derivative art, senseless superstitions, too many bags, too much drama.


I have opened my door to: Regular exercise, drinking more water, travel, sincere and chivalrous suitors, elegant date nights, strong and honest men, sleeping alone, sleeping enough, zero debt, taking a leisurely walk at sunset, more time reading the classics, more time writing, proper skin care, laughter, fluffy bedroom slippers, Stevie Nicks, star gazing, ghosts, gardens, eating fruits, windy days, rainy days, patience, freedom.

What shall remain constant: family, true friends, America the band, solitude, literature, shiraz, and love.

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20 December 2013

Normal

When one has OCD, everything is connected, and remembered, and big, and important, and relevant. What is trivial and inconsequential to normal folks is monumental and epic to a person with OCD, such as myself.

Most of the time, it's overwhelming.


That's why I break things down into smaller pieces that make it easier for me to live my life from day to day to painstaking day. Among the tools critical for my survival are detailed lists, planners, tracking calendars, organizers, file folders, pre-set formulas, rulers, tabs, labelers, multi-pens, color-coding pens, straight lines, very clear sentences, boxes of a certain dimension, pre-programmed and recurring alarms, parameters, delineations, math, date-and-time stamps, and the solid laws of logic.


If you think me strange, perhaps that's because I am. But I have never let that stop me from reaching for my dreams. In that manner, I am perhaps more normal than the most normal person on earth.

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13 December 2013

Superstition

Because I am inordinately superstitious, this day fills me with trepidation. But at the same time I anticipate it with a giggly, feverish exhilaration. This Friday the Thirteenth will be like no other.

It will be the first Friday the Thirteenth in eleven years in which I shall be without a man in my life.


That realization came crashing through my senses a couple of days ago, from out of the blue, jolting me from my office paperwork, and I sat bolt upright in my chair. I frantically tried to remember how I dealt with the last Friday the Thirteenth that I had to spend alone, and could not remember anything recent. I was always with a man, and judging from my fear of days such as this, I’m sure they all bent backwards to appease me, keep me from feeling anxious and jittery and hyper-observant of all other superstitious details that would bring bad luck to our already unlucky day: a black cat crossing our path and I would completely change or dinner plans; two people saying the same word at the same time and not knocking on wood right after would cause me to panic; and a myriad of other little un-connected things that I would obsess and fixate over until dreadful, dreadful Friday the Thirteenth was over. My, the things I made my men go through, and the things they endured for me!

But they are no longer here. I am alone, vulnerable to all the cruel vagaries of this upcoming dark day. Some higher power must be telling me something. Last night I rolled my eyes at the heavens (or, more accurately, the ceiling), and said a little prayer before I went to sleep.

And then, right before dawn today, I woke up to a text message that said, “Good morning, beautiful.” It’s from someone I know and he loves me. How could I not jump out of bed happily after that, Friday the Thirteenth all forgotten, superstitions all forgotten, recent heartbreak all forgotten? Like a squeaky schoolgirl I smiled at the heavens (or, more accurately, the ceiling) and said a little prayer before starting my day.


It’s amazing how a simple, short sentence can make the difference in our day. Because all words come from somewhere, and from where his words came, I know it beats for me. His words gave me strength to brave the day today.

Superstition is just one of the many ways of dealing with a natural human fear of the unknown, and I can always choose another way. I’m still a little afraid, but in a good way. It's okay not to know what will happen in the future. All life is risk. All love is risk. I sally on. Love, here we go.

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06 December 2013

Dear 38 Year-Old Maryanne,

Thank you so much for writing me. I have taken your words to heart, and I really appreciate the time and effort you took in writing me that letter, and finding a way to reach me through time. I took an ample amount of time to process everything you told me, and realized that it’s all up to me to decide how your life is going to be.

You were writing me out of fear and sadness then, although it was a credit to you that you were still able to make your letter sound happy. But I could see your fear and sadness through all that. Now please forgive me, but I have to be honest with you. I cannot proceed with my life eternally concerned about what you will feel, even if I know that at the lowest moments of your life, you will blame me. There are things that I have to do, and things that I have to go through, so that you will become who you are now.


Because young as I am, and with no other frame of reference than my limited view of life, I know no other way to learn but to surrender to the chaos, the uncertainty, and the lost feeling I get when I look out into the future and see nothing. But let me deal with all that. Let me bear the brunt of the pain. Let me be the one to make the mistakes, be with the wrong men, do the wrong things, be in the wrong places, be hurt over and over. Being my age is for all that, anyway. Let me be the one to fight. Let me be the one to be angry. Let me have all the bad hairstyles and wear all the awful clothes. Let me be the silly stupid, asinine one. Let me be the one to hurry when I should slow down and slow down when I should hurry. Let me have the sunburn, the scraped knees, the concussions, the bruises, the colds, the fevers, the disorders, the depression. Let me do all the crying and declare all the regrets. Let me face the darkness for you. Let me be the caterpillar so you can be the butterfly.


And what an amazing butterfly you are now. Your life is much simpler. You know clearly what you want, what are important to you, and what you want to fight for. You have let go of what you cannot control and what is not good for you. You no longer fear new things so much. You sleep better at night. More significantly, you can now keep secrets. You can now discern when to take action and when to wait for events to fall into place. You now know how to deal with the darkness that comes every once in a while. You now walk taller, you speak with more confidence, smile with more sincerity, and laugh more heartily. You can now face fear and pain with silence and imperturbable composure. You have learned how to cry in secret. You have learned how to be the guardian of your own dignity. You now have faith, and hope has never been stronger in you. You are fearless.  


Of course I did not see all these when I got your letter. I could not see the future, although your letter gave me a clue. But a very small voice inside me told me not to listen to fear, and I proceeded with that. I have decided to live my life the way I wanted to, and not in the way you wanted me to. This is my way of teaching you all the things that you asked me in the letter to teach you.

I make no apologies for your dark days. I make no apologies for anything in your life. But little by little, you will understand why I decided to live life the way I did. And the end result of all that is you, now, at this moment, suspended momentarily for the time that you are taking to read this letter from me. In the convergence of you and me, across 23 years of pain and love and magic, you will see what I mean. I think you are starting to see it now. You are on the verge. Give in to it. Close your eyes and fly.

With love,
15 year-old Maryanne
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29 November 2013

'Tis true

That when someone’s character is so dark and scheming, and that someone hurts you and you do not deserve it, you need not retaliate at all. The universe itself will declare revenge in your name, and will provide a glorious resolution for you, without you lifting a finger or saying a single word. Lady Justice, faithful soldier of an orderly universe, will strike the blow.


And perhaps, despite the blindfold over Lady Justice, she is not really that unseeing. I have reason to believe that her eyesight is so sharp and intuitive that, blindfold or no blindfold, scale or no scale, she can see beyond made-up faces and public personas to the kind of heart buried deep beneath the fake surface, and she will always know when to lift her sword. And after the moment of judgment, life will go on as decreed, until darkness anew calls on Lady Justice to intervene again.

At any rate, I’m okay, and life goes on, now wonderfully, happily, productively. Maybe this is also what the universe is telling me: I must live to tell the tale, in my own way, in my own time, because writing truthfully, beautifully, and unforgettably about it is the best justice of all.

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22 November 2013

Masquerade

Although I have never been able to attend a masquerade ball in my life, I have always been fascinated by the concept of it. There is a theme, and there must be masks. No matter that the masks don’t really mask who one is, it’s the masquerade of being masked that matters. I love that people seem to exert real effort on the costumes that will fit the theme -- at least that’s what it looks like in the movies I watch and in the online articles that I read about masquerade balls -- and that they make the masks real works of art.


But isn’t that what we already do in real life? We put on masks -- makeup, literally, and a public persona, figuratively. We dress the part we want to play: executive, graduate student, starving artist, yuppie, poet, professor.

Even our language is masked. We don’t always say what we feel, out of the concerns of politeness, decorum, and diplomacy. We don’t always reveal what we think, to keep from hurting others, and we don’t always express what we mean, for fear of being misunderstood even in the explaining. Sometimes, we cry out for help, but even those are masked. They are not literal cries for help, but jokes filled with meaning, a word edged into an otherwise banal statement, a story told in a casual manner.

I am part of this masked crowd that wades through the ocean of civility with a calm face, a brave expression, a smile and a joke every now and then, polite laughter, and a social life that seems normal. But underneath, I am nothing like that. Only the people closest to me know who I really am inside, without the mask. An elite few have accepted me, and have stayed with me all their lives. One got very close, saw behind the mask, and did his best to  love me anyway and even removed his own mask in the process. But it was not meant to be. We got blinded by our own image.

So after he walked away, I just put my mask back on, and continue to wade through the horde in this ball, still hopeful for what life will bring me.


Because beneath the mask, I still believe in love. I still can find happiness in this masquerade ball of life. Someday, someone new and strong and honest and true will walk up to me and say, “I know who you are, even with the mask on, and I love you nevertheless, even without the mask.”

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15 November 2013

My mother

is celebrating her birthday today.

And on this day I cannot help but wonder how her life was like when she was my age.

When she was 38, I was 17. She had just gotten back from four years in California with Da, and I was not the same person that she left. I was older, more headstrong, more broken, more lonely, more angry, more unpredictable than ever, and impossible to handle. Most 17 year-olds are. But in her eyes, I am nothing like the rest of that population. She believed I was special.

So she stayed with me, and worked with me, and though it was not easy -- for her as well as for me -- and nothing was perfect, I shed off that grunge-y, angst-y shell and was able to start making peace with who I really am inside.

Now I am 38 myself, and I have not experienced half the pain and difficulties she went through when she was 38. I have it easy, mostly because she saw to it that I won't go through the same difficulties she had, and for that I am grateful.

But as life must have it, I must go through my own purgatories, my own abysses, my own confrontations with the devil, and there are times when I absolutely must do it alone, and I'm glad I got through them. My mother taught me how.

Now life is still not perfect, but I know now that for as long as I stay true to myself, and be respectful of my own core values, then all will be well. Sometimes I forget that, I admit, but I always eventually go back to who I am. I always come home to where I belong.


Happy birthday, Mama Eden.

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Under the spotlight

Last November 10 I was Philofaxy's Reader Under The Spotlight. I talk about planners and Filofaxes and organizers, and other tools that help me manage my life. Check out the full post here.

08 November 2013

Second chances

Yesterday I attended my very first class for the one and only class that I am enrolled in for this semester in the University of the Philippines, Diliman. This time, I am attending just one undergraduate class, in compliance of a prerequisite for me to study for a Master's Degree in Comparative Literature, Major in Literary Theory. I was admitted to the program just last October, and I have begun attending classes only yesterday, at the start of the second semester.


This would be my second Master's Degree, after my Master in Business Administration from the Ateneo many, many, many years ago.

CL was never my first choice as a major for my second Master's Degree. In 2002, I was admitted to the Master's Degree Program for Creative Writing, and it was an exhilarating journey for me. I was fresh out of the province, living with relatives in Quezon City, and still working for my freelance consultancies, and I was thrilled to finally be learning first-hand from the biggest names in Philippine Literature. These big names actually read the stories that I wrote for class, and told me what they thought about them, and I, in turn, can tell them what I think as well. Finally, they have become real people for me, writers who also struggle with the writing craft on a daily basis, like I do.


Still, that did not help to dissipate the star-struck feeling I always get when I interact with them, either in class, in writers' gatherings, in lectures and symposiums, at book launches, or elsewhere. In keeping with my brown-nosed method of formal study, I enrolled in each and every class being taught by my literary and academic idols, even classes that were not required of me and which I knew will not be credited. And those classes were difficult! And many of them got me only a grade of INC.

Nevertheless, I persevered in flying around aimlessly inside the College of Arts and Letters, only wanting to experience studying at the feet of the masters. Of course it will come as no surprise that the program eventually expired on me, on the tenth year, which was last year.

But of course I have vowed never to leave UP without a degree. So I pleaded with my Graduate School Coordinator, who fought for me as best she could, and I also pleaded with my Vice-Chancellor to grant me an extension, but I understand that they had to put their foot down at some point. They could not just keep students in there, un-graduated, forever. And like my coordinator and two-time professor told me, "It's not that we don't want you here. It's just not good parenting."

And so here I am, starting again. This time, I am on a strict study plan that spans only five very tight years. And I have a ghost theory for it, and I am very excited about it, and so are my enrollment advisers, and my professor for this class that I am taking this semester.


I, of course, am grateful for this second chance, knowing that I shall have to prove myself worthy of the slot this time. I shall have to work harder, submit better papers, have more focus, devote more time, get better grades, and come up with a final work that will surpass everyone's expectations of what a ghost theory is.

And I am grateful not just for this second chance, but for the many other second chances that I have been given in my life. I am not a perfect girl / daughter / employee / mother / wife / student / consultant / editor / writer, but through sheer grit and the conviction that I was born to write, write, write, I have more or less been able to redeem myself by doing the one and only thing I know how to do well: to write.

So I write down a plan, write down a definite schedule, write down tasks and duties, write down deadlines, write down what is expected of me, write down everything I need to do to make myself worthy of this generous second chance. And I write down my ideas, write down what is real and true and important, write down what I want to make true, write down my dreams and my desires and my future.

And in so doing, I also write away my fears, write away my sadness, write away my pain. Because that's the only way I know how to cope, to survive, to become better: by turning everything into words that I can actually hold in my hands and deal with.

I am a writer, and that's what I do. Finally, I have found the gumption to claim the title for myself.


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01 November 2013

Take care, my love

Your home, where you belong, and where you have always found peace and quiet and comfort, will be here waiting for you when you return from the difficult journey that you have to make.


And when you finally do come back to this home that we have made real and true, beyond all legalities and beyond all social conventions, you can be happy and at peace and silent once more, and you can finally rest inside the warmth and safety of the love that we have built together, this time for all eternity.

25 October 2013

The streak

Growing up, I sported a very short, very flat version of a page boy with full bangs. It was called the apple cut, which was popular with both boys and girls in the seventies and eighties. It was not my choice of haircut, as I was barely in my teens, and so my mother decided on every aspect of my life then, including my hair. But being too young, I did not quite care how I looked. I was happy with whatever I was allowed.

Since I turned 13, however, I was given free rein over my hair and other things, and true to adolescent impetuosity, I have gone from short to long to short again many times over, from straight to curly to frizzy and back to straight, from to brown to black to brown again. I even sported a crew cut at one point during high school, a no-no in our Catholic all-girls’ school. And then in further defiance, I had my head shaved to almost-bald in my senior year. Coupled with torn jeans, and sometimes, super-short skirts and super-short shorts -- all no-nos in school as well -- I became iconic in my class this way: the girl with that hair and those outfits.


It is only expected of any self-respecting teenager that she would thumb at authority in some of the most superficial ways possible, and choice of hairstyle and clothes was one of the channels through which the aforementioned teenager can pronounce a revolution. In my mind, at sixteen, the world turned on whether or not my hair was spiky and what color my socks were, and how torn my jeans were, and other profound details of such a frivolous philosophy. I had a willing audience for that, though. Quite a lot of people constantly reacted to what I wore, what I said, what I did -- teachers, classmates, the nuns. Classmates were mostly encouraging; perhaps they were living their own revolutions vicariously through me. Teachers turned their noses up at me. Nuns made the sign of the cross and mumbled a short prayer for the salvation of my soul each time they would pass me at the hallways and corridors of that large and stuffy high school that was my home for four years.

Now, nearing forty, and hardly a revolutionary -- and still not knowing whether my soul would be saved despite all the prayers that the nuns may have uttered on my behalf -- I have let my hair grow out. It’s straight, now brushes my shoulders, and has about 30% of white in it, spread all over, giving the illusion, when seen from a distance, that I had hair that was a strange, indescribable shade of brown. I have a streak of white hair, too, a fat swathe of it that starts from the top of my head and falls over the right side of my part. This streak, I suspect, started sometime during college, secretly, without me noticing it -- especially because it flowed down in a part of my head that I did not see -- until someone asked me if I got that part dyed white. All other white hair began to appear around that streak, and then gradually spread out all over my head.

The streak is still there, holding its own, but I know that in time it will be overpowered by all the individual white strands as they grow in number, eventually turning my entire head of hair white. Or gray. I cannot really tell yet. It has not gotten to that point. Right now it’s still in a state of ambivalence, and my hair sports that ‘color’ that people would, in an attempt to bestow comfort, call ‘salt-and-pepper.’

People ask me what salon I go to to get my ‘white highlights,’ and if it took me a long time to get it ‘just right.’ When I tell them it’s natural, they then promptly ask me if I have any plans to get the whites colored. At least now the tables have turned, and I’m no longer the one confused about my hair. Because I have decided to just let it go, let it grow, let it turn white, or gray. My hair is the least of my concerns now. I declare revolutions elsewhere. 


Perhaps, in this day and age in which everyone dyes their hair, leaving mine natural is my own new form of revolution. As the white streak starts to wave goodbye to its formerly dominant stature in my head, my wild streak has likewise begun to dissipate into the mists of memory. It will be replaced, in time, by white hair, straight hair, long hair, hair that does not need much to be healthy, and a life that does not need much to be happy. And the revolution will have been complete.

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06 September 2013

I have an Etsy Store

It's called Paper Love Forever. In it, I design custom-made planner inserts for the Filofax, Franklin Covey, and other organizers with similar hole configurations.



Paper has always been my most preferred medium, and when I work with paper I feel like I am truly in my element. Also, because of my OCD, designing paper planners and time-management systems relieves my compulsion for order, and makes me feel like all is well in the world.



I also design custom-made tracking boxes for the planner inserts, so that my clients -- as well as I -- can stay on top of the many things that we all have to deal with on a daily basis, making sure that nothing falls though the cracks.

It might sound like a lot of work, but when something is already an organic part of your life, you find that it's much, much more natural than you used to think, and being without it would be like going through life without wearing shoes or drinking water.

The store opened quietly at the end of August, and so far I have had good support. My clients are usually from the US and UK, and prefer planning on paper rather than on the iPad. That, I can certainly relate to.


I don't know where this store will bring me, but I am open to possibilities, and I am grateful for the chance to have a hand at designing. I like the feeling of just putting on my headphones and listening to glorious music while working with the vectors that make up the planner elements. In zoning out the noise and clutter of the world, I can zone into the order that I need so much in my life.

Yes, paper, in its many creative forms and applications, is always good for the soul.

25 August 2013

The gift

Over forty decades ago, he was born. Little did anyone know that he was born specifically to be God's gift to me.


To the man in my life, Mr. T, who has always been patient and kind and tender and loving to me, without fail, and who always does his best to make me happy and cater to all my needs, and who always picks me up each time I fall, and treats my wounds and heals my ailments, please know that everyday I thank God for giving you to me, despite all the odds, despite all the many missed chances. Sometimes, when we think something is not meant to be but it still happens, it only means that greater powers are in force, and we can only surrender.

Happy birthday, my love.

16 August 2013

The ground I walk on

is literally strewn with rose petals in pink, white, and red today, in honor of my birthday. This is the loving and thoughtful project of the man in my life, Mr. T, who had successfully surprised me with this.

He did surprise me on the "salubong" of my birthday by presenting me with a bouquet of red roses, and I thought that was that, but when he walked me to my office, this is what I saw.


And I had another bouquet of red roses on top of my office printer. I felt like a beloved princess.

Thank you so much to Mr. T for pulling off this wonderful, magical surprise, one that no one has ever done for me before. My admiration goes out to him, too, for being able to stick with me for as long as he has. I know I'm not an easy person to live with, and our union is not all perfect, but it's real, and we have patterned our life around it, and we treat our union as important, and there is sincere love in it. And for now, that's okay.

I am looking forward to the rest of my life with him, come what may, whatever storms or glitches or darkness or interruptions may come. The ground I walk on shall always be strewn with rose petals and the love that he has laid down for me.

09 August 2013

Working with planners (or, My YouTube channel)

Some of you might not know it yet, but I have a YouTube channel. It's called My Favorite Things. And even if not all of my favorite things are featured in that channel, what is actually in that channel are planner- and planner-related topics.

I make videos to share setups of my planners and some ideas on how they work for me. I also feature what ever new designs and items are up for sale on My Etsy store. It might seem banal -- and a tad obsessive -- to talk about planners and planning so much, but my OCD is actually relieved when I work with these things.

Because of the system that I have designed for myself, things actually get done. And on days when the Depressive Monster (the other extreme of my Bipolar continuum) rears its ugly head, my planner is an amazing tool to just plow through my day and my tasks with resolve and courage.

Why not blog about it instead? Because I want this blog to be about other things. It helps to compartmentalize my channels for expression and sharing: YouTube for planner things, Blogger for everything else.

So if you have some time, please drop by my YouTube channel. I hope you like my videos, and please feel free to subscribe.

26 April 2013

The many kinds of travel

How I long to be a traveler of the world. Ever since I was a little girl, sickly with asthma and living in an insulated little house in the middle of a large farm, tended to by my parents and maids, the great world out there has always beckoned to me. And so I resorted to the only travel that was accessible to me: reading books upon books upon books. I read and finished my first novel when I was seven years old, and have not stopped reading books since then.

Now I am much older, and no longer sickly in the same manner, and I have done a bit of travel already. However, I have not traveled as much and to as many places as I would like, owing to duties and responsibilities to my family, my day job, my studies, my freelance work, my financial standing, my psychiatric needs, and my home-based business. Of course, I still aim to travel someday, when all has been dealt with. But for now, I just look at that dream with fondness and anticipation, knowing that I will get there someday.

I suppose it's only natural that I gravitate towards items that I can actually purchase now, at this non-traveling time, with the travel idea in mind. Because it's not only actual, traditional travel that is travel. Even going through one's ordinary days can be a travel -- or a journey -- in itself, because no day is ever like the other, and as we go through each step, every kilometer, talk to each and every person that crosses our path, exchange smiles and glances, share a chuckle, share a table at a crowded coffee shop, we end the day a changed person, even if only infinitesimally, barely noticeably, but changed nonetheless, and we can feel it pulsating in us, even if just very faintly, the next morning, when we embark on the new journey for the day.

In this spirit, I fell in love with the Midori Traveler's Notebook, and just had to have it. I love the idea behind it, and I love how it's made, and as a fledgling designer myself, I appreciate the often difficult process of coming up with a product that actually works very simply and intuitively. (As my writing professors often say, it's the stories that are easiest to read that are most difficult to write. I believe the same applies to the world of design.)

The MTN is a simple piece of thick, square-ish leather. Mine came in brown but there is also a black one. It comes in two sizes, the passport-sized one and the regular-sized one, which is a little wider and a lot taller. I liked the wider, taller version, because I write a lot, and when I have one notebook, I like to use it for everything.

And I was able to do that with the MTN. The saddle-stitched notebook refills are held in place with an elastic that runs through the spine of the leather, and I can put as many in there are the cover could physically hold. At one point, the notebook was almost three inches thick, and I loved it to bits. I would like to share with you now how I have set it up.

First, I threaded three strands of elastic clear nylon thread through the existing holes, so be able to accommodate all the refill notebooks that I was thinking of putting into the notebook.



The MTN also has a set of rubber bands, sold separately, that you can use to hold more notebooks in, but I wanted all notebooks to be flush with the spine, so I thought this was a better option.

Then I proceeded to add the inserts. Here is the sturdy plastic insert with a zipped pocket that I used a my wallet, and the inserts that held all my cards.



I also used two kraft folders that functioned as a catch-all for the loose slips of paper that I had to deal with everyday.


I also added a printout of the office directory from my day job. These are everyone's direct lines, and I don't call them all everyday, so I did not want to store them on my phone, but I wanted the directory to be with me in case I need it. The original data was given to me in an Excel file, and I reformatted it using the Numbers app on my Mac, and printed it to the MTN refill size. Very handy to use when I am away from a landline phone and have to call someone in the office!


And here is the Chronodex, the core of the system, which I printed, one core to a day and one page to a day, on the MTN's gridded paper notebook refill. It looks awesome, geeky in an analog kind of way, and really put me on top of my daily tasks and everything else that seem to keep cropping up as the day goes along.





On the MTN, I just carried two pens in two pen loops. On the small pen loop, I had the five-color Pilot Coleto pen that I use to color-code my Chronodex. I also had a large pen loop at the back cover. I had a Lamy Al-Star in it that I used to write in my journal, which was also on the MTN, in the lightweight paper notebook refill.


And my favorite part of this setup would be the brass name plate that I have strung on the elastic closure of the notebook. I had it made specially for me by Tato Faustmann, and I am very happy with it.



And behold all that adorable chunkiness!


This notebook was my all-in-one tool for getting through my days. I had the Chronodex in there as my planner, my journal, my office directory, my catch-all, my cards and wallet, my pens, and a few loose sheets of paper that I could use to jot down ideas and notes on the fly. It got heavy from time to time, but once I clear out the things from there that I have to file off, it got lighter again.

And this is my own way of traveling for now. While the distant lands that beckon me are still waiting for my footsteps to land on their wonderful, magical soil, I have the MTN while I am still in my homeland. And it's all good.

19 April 2013

Oh, the cover

Very late one night in April, as I was about to go to sleep, I received a Gmail chat message from a friend of mine, fellow Bicolano and Atenean, photographer and designer extraordinaire Vic Nierva. He wanted to show me the cover study that he had designed for my third book (and my first collection of short stories), Married Women.

And the cover study simply just woke me up! It is beautiful, it is in the minimalist style that I love, and it has the ampersand that I requested him to use, to symbolize the union between the two parties in a marriage agreement.


What I truly did not expect-- and what blew me over and made me a huge Vic Nierva fangirl -- was that he used the ampersand element to render a vortex-like image, which represents the dark and murky vortex that married-ness almost always sucks people into. All hail Vic Nierva!

The book is being published by the Ateneo de Naga University Press, and I do have to thank my good friend and multi award-winning writer Kristian Sendon Cordero for leading me to it, and for the Press Director, Fr. Wilmer Tria, for accepting my manuscript right on the same day that I sent him a query letter, without reading the manuscript itself! I am humbled and touched at the confidence that he has in me.

This book has a personal story. I was planning for it to be my thesis for the degree I have been studying for, Master of Arts in Creative Writing, in the University of the Philippines, Diliman. Ever since I got admitted to the program in 2002, I have been working towards writing this book. I even got a Palanca award for one of the stories that's in the book.

However, somewhere along the way, I have outgrown this book. I felt like I could no longer stand before a panel of my my professors and experts in the field to defend the theories, principles, and aesthetics behind this collection, and situate it within a larger story, a wider discourse. Going through the stories in the collection, I detected a strong feminist slant, and I am afraid that I am not feminist enough to speak as one, much less in defense of a work that would inevitably be tagged as feminist. It was all I could do to let it go.

And let it go I did. I have let the book fly away to wherever its destiny will lead it, while I shall stand here waving it goodbye, now free from the burden of having to talk about it anymore. Because that part of my life is over. And even though that part of my life will become immortal as a book, it's still a beautiful book, with a beautiful cover, and that's all it is. The rest of the stories behind that book, ones that were never translated into words on paper, shall nevertheless remain in my heart for as long as I live.

05 April 2013

Celebrate!


Because there has been a recent development in my private life that truly propels my future forward, and moves me closer towards my happiness and the fulfillment of my dreams. Hurray!

29 March 2013

Twelve thousand

That's how many titles I actually have for my Kindle Touch. Of course, they don't all fit into my Kindle, which can hold only about 4,000 titles. Right now my Kindle only has about 200 titles in it, and I don't store much in it because the navigation is really slow, finicky, and very primitive. But all my Kindle titles are in one enormous folder in my laptop, with a backup file on two different external hard drives, and on two of my Cloud accounts, in addition to my online Amazon library.

Many of you who know me well -- and many of you, too, who don't know me well -- know me enough to realize that books are my passion. I have been reading voraciously since I was seven years old. A sickly girl growing up in a large farm, I grew up with books. My childhood saw me staying up late in bed with a flashlight (which probably accounts for my miserable eyesight now), spending summer afternoons up in the mango tree with a cushion and a book, and mostly just always reading, even at family reunions. Books were my vehicles to the much larger world outside. That's how I traveled then, with my mind, within the comfort and safety and relative consistency of my own little reading nook. Very early on in my life, books were already my security blanket.

As I grew older, that didn't change. Over time, my own collection of physical books number about 800 actual books. Most of them are still on display in the bookshelves of my Makati apartment, although a lot of them are stored in plastic boxes as well, for lack of shelf space. (These plastic boxes also function as furniture. I stacked one on top of the other, draped a tablecloth over them, and they are now my bedside tables. Now I can claim that my books are my bedside tables, in a way.)

It's not just the concept of books that I love and need. it's the actual physicality of them. Their history, their components, the covers, the pages, the spine, the printing, the parts. I cannot live without actual books, with paper pages I can flip through, and actual ink that I can pore over, and actual spines that I can see lined up on my shelves, and peruse, and caress from time to time, whenever I feel lonely and lost.

When the Kindle first came out, I did not warm to the idea at once. I did not like the concept of reading a digital book. I still preferred actual books, of course, and being the old fogey, I resisted the idea for years. Even when some of my oldest professors have shifted to the Kindle, using their failing eyesight as an excuse, I did not budge.

Until a year ago

I purchased the Kindle Touch directly from Amazon just before it was phased out, to make way for the new line of Kindles.

And right from the moment I unpacked it, I fell in love with it!


Here it is beside a book that Mr. T, gave me months before I bought the Kindle, and which I had just finished reading at the time. And while I will always love physical books with their endearing parts and elements, I have a new love for the Kindle.

Because it was light, it did not look as high-tech as I thought it would, and it could carry Proust! And all of Dickens! And War and Peace! and Game of Thrones! and all Stephen King books! And Alain de Botton! And Umberto Eco! And Italo Calvino! All together, in just one small, light gadget, that even had a gorgeous leather case with a built-in LED light! And it still looked like paper! I wondered how I was able to live without it for as long as I have.


It's now what I carry around everywhere I go. Now it's not just a book or two, but an entire library. It will never trump actual books in my heart, but it sure beats bringing around the unabridged edition of The Adventures of Don Quixote of Salamanca.

And that is why I now have twelve thousand titles for my Kindle.